Janet McCurdy reveals child stardom in her memoir I’m Glad My Mom Died IG News

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Warning: This article mentions eating disorders and abuse.

Janet McCurdy spent most of her life making her mother sit on a pedestal.

The child star ventured into the television industry at the young age of six and when her mother passed away from cancer in September 2013, she did not know what to do next.

“I don’t know who I am without her because I lived for her, and now she’s dead,” McCurdy said in an interview with CBC. Why With Tom Power. But McCurdy said there was also a sense of relief.

“I couldn’t face it at the time, but there was some relief. And I had no idea I would feel so guilty about that relief that I’d push it down.”

Last week, McCurdy released his memoir I’m glad my mom died is gaining attention for both her shocking title and her relationship with her abusive mother, Debra. The 30-year-old also opened up about her struggle with an eating disorder.

“No child is psychologically, emotionally, mentally equipped for the odds of child stardom,” she said. “Even if they have the biggest support system around.”

Former actor best known for his role as Sam Puckett no statement made, a 2007 Nickelodeon sitcom about teenagers with a viral web show. The show ran for six seasons and had a revival in 2021 with most of its original cast.

iCarly cast members (left to right) Noah Munck, Miranda Cosgrove, Jerry Trainor, Janet McCurdy and Nathan Kress pose for a photo backstage at a special military family screening of Nickelodeon’s iCarly on January 13, 2012. McCurdy described Q as a child star. Was ‘severely unwell’. (Photo by Paul Morigi/Getty Images for Nickelodeon)

But McCurdy said she never wanted to be an actress—it was her mother’s dream.

“I think he saw an opportunity in me and maybe a way to fulfill his dreams,” she said.

“I just remember that my whole life was oriented towards her and revolved around her and what she wanted and needed and what would make her happy at any given moment.” McCurdy told Why,

McCurdy described his mother as layered and complex; Charismatic, captivating and infectious. But behind closed doors, McCurdy characterized his actions as manipulative.

“When I look back, [I can] Recognize the difference between what I wanted and what reactions were coming out of my mouth. So whatever came out of my mouth was always to please Mommy,” she said, “Often, I disagreed with her, but I didn’t know how to locate that part of my voice. “

McCurdy says their shared eating disorder was a way for him and his mother to connect.

“It’s with eating disorders everywhere, where the more embroiled you are in that disease, the more your instinct is to connect with other people who are caught up in the disease. It just clumps together and perpetuates the cycle. keeps.”

She remembers her mother skipping breakfast, eating half of a granola bar for lunch and plain vegetables for dinner. She also restricted McCurdy’s daily caloric intake. McCurdy begins to piece together her mother’s unusual eating habits, but she also finds relief for her battle.

“She was really helping me with my eating disorder, which I couldn’t identify as an eating disorder at the time because I was living in delusions of it.”

Her late mother did not publicly address her and her daughter’s disorders.

When her mother died in 2013, McCurdy said the grief was not simple.

“I think I miss her and I start crying, I get angry that I was crying. I think mom is not worth my tears, she abused me. To miss it How’s the place still person?”

life as a child star

One woman stands to the left, while several teens reach their arms toward her.
Janet McCurdy greets fans at a special military family screening of Nickelodeon’s iCarly: I Meet the First Lady on January 13, 2012 at Hayfield Secondary School. McCurdy said in an interview with Q: ‘There’s a lot of people out there weighing in. [child stars] What should and should not be done and how should they act and how should they be.’ (Photo by Paul Morigi/Getty Images for Nickelodeon)

Culture writer Ashley Spencer, who recently wrote about The Washington Post’s memoir, said that sometimes the relationship between child actors and parents can be complicated.

“If parents are on their child’s payroll and don’t have their best interests at heart, they may be pushing them to do things the child might not want to do otherwise.”

She embodies celebrity tabloid culture, which ran rampant during McCurdy’s early stint at Nickelodeon in the early 2000s.

“There was a lot of voyeur intrigue and child stars of that era, and especially with teen stars,” she said. Thin body types were being idolized, Spencer said, and teenage girls were deeply influenced by this dominating image.

There was also added pressure on some young stars to behave in the public eye.

“There is a lot of pressure on the kids who come to the show to be role models and make a good impression on these kids who watch the show,” Spencer said.

move on after acting

Although he had self-doubts about quitting acting, McCurdy knew it was the right decision.

She threw herself into writing and directing, producing a one-woman show for her memoir, and began hosting a podcast called empty inside, He has also written and directed short stories Kenny And 8 bodies.

She attended therapy for years before considering writing a memoir and realized that her relationship with her mother would always be complicated.

“I think she will always be the heartbeat of my life in some ways,” McCurdy said. “I think there’s always something about that relationship that will stay with me and inform who I am and who I am.”

If you or someone you know is struggling with disordered eating, here’s how to get help:

  • National Eating Disorders Information Center: 1-866-633-4220 (phone) | nedic.ca (chat)
  • KIDS HELP Phone: 1-800-668-6868 (PHONE), Live Chat Counseling on website.

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