Westmeath man jailed for raping and sexually abusing his younger sister IG News

A woman who was sexually abused as a child by her older brother has said that today marks the beginning of the rest of her life after three years in prison.

Sean Farrelly (30) was a teenager when he began abusing his seven-year-old sister while he was thinking about her at their family home in Castlepollard, Co Westmeath.

His sister, Aoife Farrelly, who forgave his anonymity so that he could be named, said that his brother had “literally and figuratively” kept him in a choke-hold for so long, but would no longer do.

She said she hoped he would eventually pay for what she did and that she was determined to grow and recover.

“Unlike you, I have no fault and I will no longer let you take up space in my head.”

“Goodbye Cyan,” she said in her victim impact statement, hoping she’ll never see or hear from her brother again.

‘Significant degree of violence’

Farrelly, of Kells Road, Oldcastle, Co Meath and Co Westmeath, pleaded guilty in the Central Criminal Court to the rape and sexual assault of their sister at the family home between 2007-2009. He already has no faith.

His sister’s age at the time was between 7 and 8½, while Farelli was between 15½ and 17.

Sentencing Farrelly on Tuesday, Justice Paul McDermott said Ms. Farrelly’s childhood had been destroyed and she was deeply affected by the mistreatment of her brother.

“There was a significant degree of violence that made the attack all the more horrific for a young child in the family home,” the judge said.

She said Ms Farrelly was brave enough to explain what was happening to her when she told her mother about the abuse, but then she had to deal with the consequences of the abuse at large and was left with “a feeling of deep betrayal.” Left with ” and a “loss of trust in others”.

The judge said if he had been dealing with adult abuse of a child, he would have been sentenced to a main sentence of 10-15 years. However, he said the court should treat Farreli as a child, given that he was a juvenile at the time of the crime.

He was sentenced to four-and-a-half years and suspended for the past 18 months on multiple terms, including that Farelli had no contact with his sister.

It was enough for me to just hear the headline sentence.

Speaking outside the court, Ms Farrelly said she was pleased with the sentence given, adding that the title sentence the judge referred to was “enough” for her.

“I am much more satisfied now than I was before,” she told reporters. “No sentence is long enough… but for me just hearing the title sentence was enough.

“I always said it should be three to five” [years], That’s what I had in mind and I got it. I just broke down when I got it because all the sacrifices I made over the years finally made it worth it.”

Ms Farrelly said she is determined not to let abuse define her. “I’m Aoife Farrelly, it’s happened to me but it’s not going to define me anymore. Today is the beginning of the rest of my life and I’m so grateful I finally got my little one that I needed to keep going.” . “

During the sentencing hearing, the court heard that as a child, Ms Farrelly told her parents about the abuse. Her parents confronted her brother and the abuse stopped.

Ms Farrelly later gave a statement to Gardai in October 2020 about the pattern of abuse she was subjected to by her brother.

In her victim impact statement, Ms Farrelly outlined and continues to have the effects of abuse on her life, including self-harm, disordered eating, anxiety, stress and OCD. She says she has had counseling, psychotherapy, and inpatient treatment for PTSD.

trapped in

She said she didn’t blame her parents for what happened, but hated that they didn’t understand the weight of what they did. She said that her brother was allowed to come back into her life.

She described how she sat with her family at the dinner table near Farrelly and was “basically stuck” in the family home with him because of Covid.

She said that initially she was afraid to speak about the abuse she received from her parents. She said her brother silenced her for years, adding that the abuse should be “our secret.”

She outlined how she loved music, singing and dancing, but now feels sick to the stomach and refuses to touch her instruments because it reminds her of Farrelly.

“He has broken my whole world and I have lost everything because of him,” she said.

She said that the abuse has also had a profound effect on her education and that after reporting the crimes in 2020, she had to drop out of college due to a huge amount of stress. He feels that this is another thing that his brother has taken from him.

She outlined how the abuse had “ruined” intimate relationships and affected her relationship with her parents. She said that she hopes they can reconcile and hopes that her brother is no longer a part of her life.

apologies

At the end of the hearing Cian Farrelly took the stand to apologize to his sister. He told her that he knew it wouldn’t mean much to him anymore, but that he was sorry for the hurt and pain it had caused.

“I destroyed my family, and you, and what it meant to me to be your brother,” he said. “I hope you can get up and come out stronger than ever.”

The Eileen O’Leary SC submitted several reports to the court in defense, including a probation report and a report from Forensic Psychological Services. She said it was recommended that Farrelly attend special counseling regarding sexual self-regulation.

He said it was not possible to assess the risk as he was under 16 when the crime started. He said that he expressed regret.

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Ms O’Leary said Farrelly had difficulty hearing and was bullied at school. He said that he has been described as very introverted and makes no effort to forge new relationships.

She said that the sexual abuse was a malicious attempt to gain intimacy. The court heard reports that Farelli was a vulnerable child who went down a path with the most dire consequences for himself, his sister, and his family.


If you have been affected by any of the issues raised in this article, you can call the National 24-Hour Rape Crisis Helpline at 1800-77 8888, text service and webchat options access at drcc.ie/services/helpline/ Can visit, or visit. rape crisis help

Always dial 999/112 in case of emergency.

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